Have you ever met someone who you felt would have a long-lasting impact on your life? Yeah, me too. I met this woman and her nine-year-old son in a homeless shelter in Illinois. The narrative she told me was awful, and she was leaving her husband. I had no notion who she might have truly been. Now, I hadn’t been dating in a while and wasn’t looking, so it surprised me when she expressed an interest in me, because I’m sweet but not approachable for a reason.
Despite my gut feeling, I let my guard down. And gosh, was that a mistake! Our relationship was characterized by her being bossy and controlling, jealous, and arguing, and I tried so many times to enhance her self-esteem that it was quite low. If anyone was asking about the age gap, you could have labeled her my cougar. She is 41 years old, and I am 30. All my buddies advised me to hit it and quit it. She was only practicing because she was going to hurt me. She consistently does this to the individuals in her life.
She called up to my job, and made a false report, about something that could of had me fired.
Now I believe in the Bible and Jesus Christ, and while I am not perfect, I would not condone adultery. Despite my will, I continued to love her. Long story short, she abruptly left with her son for Davenport, Iowa.
I know, what the hell is going on in Davenport, Iowa? Nothing except vermin, trash, and missing Black folks. She had a nice job at the Marriott in Chicago, and she used to find all kinds of stuff there, money, beer, and once she even found a half a brick of cocaine, and after trying to sell it, I told her she was going to jail, and she promptly said she threw it away, and I still don’t know if she did or not. There are bad people everywhere we go. And sometimes we want to help folks because we don’t think they can be entirely awful, and they could be good, but there isn’t always hope for those like her. I left the shelter and found an apartment; weeks later, she calls me crying in the night because she was kicked out. I never truly found out why she was kicked out. But I suppose that was God’s way of telling me this chick was bad news.
She was always so private about things, and she never wanted to vent or express her feelings about what had transpired. I should have recognized who she was, but it turns out she was arrested for stealing a credit card. There was also theft. She defrauded men all around the world. She’s lived in around 50 states and has spent her entire life running from something or someone, and I have no idea what.
But I’m just relieved she’s out of my life. I went to Iowa for my birthday weekend to try to save our relationship, and I should have left when she started acting weird. It appears she was dating Sandy, the old lady from the shelter. The lady from the shelter moved into her apartment. Now I envision someone like me, with a full-time job and money in an account, who could and would have helped her, is a better fit, and she chooses to relocate a old woman into her apartment over me.
I NOW LET GO OF THINGS AND THOSE WHO LONGER SERVE ME..
When I arrived, it appeared that they were dating and having sex. I’m looking at her as if she’s having sex with this old ass lady with stink ass breath; who smokes crack? I had to leave. I went to Walmart and bought her some flowers for home, some roses, and a few items that she needed, and she proceeded to steal my hard-earned money the next day. She started acting like a abusive person, mad for no reason, ungrateful, irritating, aggressive, and mean, doing things a adulterer would do.
After being treated like crap for a few days, I decided to just return to Illinois. I couldn’t take any more of her misdirected rage. I requested the money she stole back, but she refused. Needless to say, you try to help others, but they end up hurting you more than you can help them. She has mouse traps throughout her apartment. I killed a couple mice when I first came to her house. She had flies and nets everywhere. She practically moved to a landfill.
Because she is not patient, she is not honest,and she is not a nice person. Let my blunders serve as a lesson! Date someone in your age range, and avoid dating people who do not love themselves.
It appears I’m not the only person, she’s hurt, someone anonymous posted this about some years ago
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